Episode 19
Backhanded compliments
Hello and Happy Friday! In this S*%! People Say, episode, we are going to talk about backhanded compliments. Trust me when I say, as a female founder especially, I’ve heard plenty of them.
TBH, I think that most people don’t even realize when they’re delivering backhanded compliments. So today, we are going to discuss some of the things that people assume (and have said to both me and others). Then we will get into how to address biases and backhanded compliments head-on.
At the end of the episode, we will talk about how to directly respond by addressing these backhanded compliments in a tactful way.
If you’re unsure how to deal with backhanded compliments in general, this episode is definitely for you.
Episode highlights:
01:23 - There is a wide range of backhanded compliments, and some of them you might just take with a smile. But there are other comments on the spectrum you absolutely cannot take with a smile, and you must call out.
02:04 - Many of us are taught to smile and nod instead of calling people on their bias.
02:15 - The callout method is not especially helpful. It can make you feel good, but the receiver is not going to learn anything.
02:59 - Usually, when you address a backhanded compliment head-on, people are surprised.
03:11 - Hopefully, when you address these compliments, the people giving them will think twice before delivering compliments in such a manner in the future.
Contact:
Jackie Hermes
